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Marriage: Keeping Score (You winning or nah)

           Keeping Score Do you want your mistakes to be held over your head? For you to have a healthy marriage, it’s very important to not keep a list of all the times your spouse messed up. Does this mean you will never mess up? No, of course not. We are human beings; we are imperfect, and selfish at times. You must forgive and let go, because you want your spouse to do the same for you, right? If this mistake is reoccurring or much bigger, then of course, it needs to be dug a little deeper to find out the root cause. After identifying the root cause, you must work with your spouse to ensure neither one of you does not repeat the mistake again. Keeping score turns everything into a competition with rules and boundaries, winners and losers. Rather than a home filled with prideful score keeping, strive for a home filled with grace and love.  This kind of home begins with putting down the scoreboard. From what I’ve seen in marriages much older than my own, it’s going

Lazy Co-Workers

 It’s not uncommon to come across a lazy co-worker, and they’re not always easy to deal with. 1. Don’t let them distract you. Don’t spend your day focusing on the fact that your lazy co-worker is constantly checking Facebook, texting or snoring at the desk next to yours. Try to tune them out and focus on your work. “Human beings are funny that way,” Robbins says. “We will spend more time focusing on the fact that our colleague isn’t doing their work than it would take to just do it ourselves.” 2. 2. Don’t get caught up in the issue of fairness.Life isn’t fair. “People often say ‘it’s unfair that he gets away with doing nothing,’ but at the end of the day, it really doesn’t change anything,” Robbins says. “By pointing out that it’s not fair, we just make ourselves feel bad and the situation doesn’t change.” Instead, focus on being the best that you can be. 3. 3. Decide who you want to be. “These tips are really all about behavior, but there’s a more important question: Wh