Keeping
Score
Do you want your mistakes to be held over your head?
For you to have a healthy marriage, it’s very important to not keep a list of all the times your spouse messed up.
Does this mean you will never mess up? No, of course not.
We are human beings; we are imperfect, and selfish at times.
You must forgive and let go, because you want your spouse to do the same for you, right?
If this mistake is reoccurring or much bigger, then of course, it needs to be dug a little deeper to find out the root cause.
After identifying the root cause, you must work with your spouse to ensure neither one of you does not repeat the mistake again.
Keeping score turns everything into a competition with rules and boundaries, winners and losers.
Rather than a home filled with prideful score keeping, strive for a home filled with grace and love. This kind of home begins with putting down the scoreboard. From what I’ve seen in marriages much older than my own, it’s going to be totally worth it.
Enjoy! Lala
Do you want your mistakes to be held over your head?
For you to have a healthy marriage, it’s very important to not keep a list of all the times your spouse messed up.
Does this mean you will never mess up? No, of course not.
We are human beings; we are imperfect, and selfish at times.
You must forgive and let go, because you want your spouse to do the same for you, right?
If this mistake is reoccurring or much bigger, then of course, it needs to be dug a little deeper to find out the root cause.
After identifying the root cause, you must work with your spouse to ensure neither one of you does not repeat the mistake again.
Keeping score turns everything into a competition with rules and boundaries, winners and losers.
Rather than a home filled with prideful score keeping, strive for a home filled with grace and love. This kind of home begins with putting down the scoreboard. From what I’ve seen in marriages much older than my own, it’s going to be totally worth it.
Tips: Focus on the positives. If you must keep
score, keep score of the loving things your partner does each day. This will
enable you to see more of them.
Be aware of when you pull out your scorecard ...
and tell your spouse quickly, "I'm sorry … that wasn't fair. Please
forgive me." This is as much a reminder for you, as being considerate of
your spouse
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